For many women, myself included, sex during pregnancy isn’t merely “good enough.” The unique hormonal context of pregnancy can lead to peak sexual desire, pleasure and satisfaction. This is particularly true during the second and third trimesters, after the nausea, fatigue and uncertainty of first trimester have subsided. Arousal levels surge due to increased blood flow, and many of the body changes pregnancy brings, such as more voluptuous breasts, can boost confidence in the bedroom. Keep reading for some fun, practical tips to safely enjoy your pregnancy sex drive.
I recommend choosing positions that minimize pressure on the belly. Up until 20 weeks, you can continue with sex as usual in your favorite positions as long as you’re comfortable. After 20 weeks, it’s best to avoid lying flat on your back due to the risk of compressing the vena cava, which can restrict circulation. If that happens, you will feel dizzy almost immediately and the simple solution is to roll onto your side until the dizziness subsides. This is why doctors advise pregnant women to avoid sleeping on their backs. If your go-to sex positions are no longer working for you, try mixing it up with the below suggestions. Third trimester will pose new challenges. Many of them mechanical. Here are a few positions that can help maximize pleasure while remaining comfortable during the final months of pregnancy:
Cowgirl: Essentially the reverse of missionary style. You on top, riding your partner. This position gives you the most control over depth of penetration and intensity of stimulation. You can face either way. Partner may be lying in bed or seated upright in a sturdy chair. Play around with it! It’s also a bit of a workout.
Edge of the bed: Recline on pillows at the edge of the bed, feet on the floor or perched on the edge of the mattress. Your partner stands or bends over you.
Spoon: Lie on your side, curled up with knees bent. Your partner lies facing your back and enters you from behind. Steamy and cuddly all at the same time!
Froggy style: This is essentially doggy style, with you on all fours… but on the forearms instead of the hands. This avoids placing pressure on your wrists and allows you to rest more fully. You can even place a pillow under your belly for added support. If you are in your third trimester (and baby is low), try widening your stance. This will help with penetration.
Side by side: Lie facing each other, and keep your top leg straight and to the side or bent at the knee. Your partner will slide his leg over you and enter you from an angle. This helps keep weight off the belly and makes kissing easy.
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To heighten pleasure for both you and your partner, I strongly suggest performing Core Compressions™ during intercourse. Think of this as a powerful Kegel that simultaneously lifts your belly up and in toward the spine- and always exhale, with or without vocalization, as you lift and squeeze. The best way to experience intense, longer and more frequent orgasm, is to practice Core Compressions in your daily self-care routine. This will ensure your ability to access these hard-to-activate muscles during key moments throughout intercourse. Within a week or two of daily practice, you will find yourself subconsciously incorporating Core Compressions into all of your activities (sexual and otherwise). Not only will this deep core engagement enhance love-making, but it will also help protect your core muscles from straining due to improper exertion or gravity.
Consider pregnancy a time to revel in your sexuality. You are a goddess! Embrace your curves. Own your sexiness. You might find that your partner will also be captivated by your new curves and the confidence that comes with harnessing your sexual desire.Treat yourself to a gift of lingerie if that helps you relax and indulge. The more you can feel comfortable and sexy in your own skin, the more you can get in touch with your own pleasure and power. Have fun with your heightened sex drive! Pregnancy is a wild ride – in every sense of the word. Enjoy it.